GiveLoveAchance

It’s surprising how many people think that just because I’m studying a specialty, Marriage and Family Therapist, that I should become some super being while I’m a relationship/pursuing one. I don’t think there was any glowing light that surrounded me and graced me with “+1 Relationship Expert”.

“Perhaps there is more understanding and beauty in life when the glaring sunlight is softened by the patterns of shadows. Perhaps there is more depth in a relationship that has weathered some storms. Experience that never disappoints or saddens or stirs up feeling is a bland experience with little challenge or variation in color. Perhaps when we experience confidence and faith and hope that we see materialize before our eyes this builds up within us a feeling of inner strength, courage, and security.”

-Dibs in Search of Self Virginia M. Axline

My ex had a point: wanting your significant other to be not just your lover, but also your best friend. I can’t imagine having any relationship, which you’re meant to have for the long, not becoming best friends.

Although I’ve regarded every boyfriend I’ve had to be my best friend, my boyfriend made a counter point: are you still friends with them? if not, then they weren’t a best friend. Point taken.

For me, a best friend is someone that I have a relationship where we both give and take. Sometimes we take a little more than give, or vice verse. But in the end, that relationship makes us a whole lot better than what we were without meeting. Someone who knows more about you then a common friend. Someone shares similar interests/passions. And the moments you share together are wisely spent.

All in all, my exs were once my best friends. They knew me then and changed me for what I am now.